Wedding Traditions & Superstitions: Something Old, New, Borrowed and Blue

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“Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a silver sixpence in her shoe.” This old, familiar rhyme suggests brides carry several tokens of good luck on their trip down the aisle.

  • Something old means continuity and is often represented by a family heirloom.
  • Something new is symbolic of the future and could be a gift from the groom. Often the bride considers her gown her “something new.”
  • Happiness is said to be denoted by wearing something borrowed from a friend or loved one.
  • Something blue means faithfulness and fidelity and is believed to protect those who wear it and make their wishes come true.
  • The sliver sixpence is a wish of wealth for the couple. Today, a penny usually stands in for the sixpence.

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While some may consider this custom old fashioned, you can preserve tradition and still add your own modern twist. Besides, I’m never one to turn down a chance for good luck! Check out author Zoey Gulmi‘s suggestions in 10 Old, New, Borrowed and Blue Accessories for the Modern Bride.

I am especially fond of Zoey’s new take on the sixpence. And she suggests monograms. And you know we southern gals LOVE our monograms! There are unlimited ways to keep these pleasant traditions close to the heart, yet make them your own.

Thanks for reading y’all! Hit the share button please! – M.T.

 

 

 

How Does Your Big Day Match Up Against the American Average?

Wedding season is in full swing here at Haydel’s!  Our friends at the knot recently released their Real Wedding Survey encompassing 13,000 U.S. brides who walked down the aisle in 2013.  Despite the trend toward more casual celebrations, wedding budgets continue to increase.  According to our local contacts at the knot, around 200 Louisiana weddings are represented in these numbers.

2013 Wedding Stats

  • Average Wedding Budget: $29,858 (excludes honeymoon)
  • Most Expensive Place to Get Married: Manhattan, $86,916 average spend (excludes honeymoon)
  • Least Expensive Place to Get Married: Idaho, $16,159 average spend (excludes honeymoon)
  • Average Spent on a Wedding Dress: $1,281
  • Average Marrying Age: Bride, 29; Groom, 31
  • Average Number of Guests: 138
  • Average Number of Bridesmaids: 4 to 5
  • Average Number of Groomsmen: 4 to 5
  • Most Popular Month to Get Engaged: December
  • Average Length of Engagement: 14 months
  • Most Popular Month to Get Married: June and September
  • Popular Wedding Colors: Blue (35%), Purple (26%), Pink (25%), Metallics (25%)
  • Percentage of Destination Weddings: 24%

Wedding budgets have continued to rise since the economic downturn five years ago.  Carley Roney, co-founder of the knot, says much of modern couples expenses go to “creating a unique, personalized and once-in-a-lifetime experience for guests…”

Louisiana ranks 17th among the 25 most expensive places to get married (or where couple’s spend the most).

In our upcoming blog posts, we’ll break down some top wedding trends, like personalization and modernization, and share ideas on how you can include them in your big day!  Till then, happy planning y’all! – M.T.

 

All About Him: The Groom’s Cake

When I mentioned I was writing this blog about the origin of the groom’s cake, one of my co-workers said she always assumed it was a southern thing because we generally like to eat more than the rest of the country.  While our love affair with food is undeniable, the groom’s cake is actually of English decent, first appearing during the Victorian Era (1837-1901).  The tradition has since mostly faded away across the pond, but it’s still trendy here in the U.S., especially in the South, where we tend to have a deep appreciation for not just most things edible but also for customs of days gone by.

Like the earliest wedding cakes, groom’s cakes were originally made of fruit cake.  The modern version we know today only came about after the inception of processed flour and baking soda.  Fruit, liqueur and chocolate were common ingredients in the first groom’s cakes.  Chocolate still reigns as the most requested flavor, not only across the country, but here at Haydel’s too.

Today, we usually see the groom’s cake served alongside the wedding cake, as a compliment or additional alternative to the multi tiered showstopper, but that was not always the case.

A Mysterious Past

The groom’s cake has been linked to many a legend.  Rumor has it that there were once three separate cakes at the celebration…the wedding cake, a bride’s cake, and a groom’s cake (sounds like my kind of party!).  While the wedding cake was served to all the guests, the bride and groom’s cakes were specifically for members of the wedding party and served following the ceremony.

Some say the groom’s cake was once simply the top tier of the elaborate wedding cake, meant to be saved and enjoyed on the couple’s first anniversary.  This has since evolved into its own custom.

As a stand alone cake, we’ve heard it was common at one time to present individually wrapped slices in monogrammed boxes to each guest as a wedding favor as they left the party.

For modern couples who choose to embrace the groom’s cake tradition, the details of this masculine confection may serve as a surprise from the bride to her future husband, or they may be entirely of his choosing.  Either way, it is most often made to reflect his personal taste and even his favorite pastime or hobby.

Folklore

One superstition suggests that single ladies who placed a slice of the groom’s cake under their pillow would dream of their future husbands.  In similar lore, a ceremony in my own sorority advised that sleeping with a special piece of cake under your pillow would make your dreams true, but not specific to one’s future betrothed…although the two go hand and hand for many.

Serve It Up

Some say etiquette calls for the groom’s cake not to be served at the wedding at all.  However exceptions apparently can be made if wedding cake is the only dessert being served, with the groom’s cake following the serving of the wedding cake.  Alternatively, it has been suggested that individual slices can be boxed and given to the single women at the reception, certainly so they can place it under their pillow.

We Say…

Don’t fear the cake police.  I doubt they’ll pay you a visit on your big day.  If they do, they may be disguised as unwanted, misguided opinions, which I highly suggest you disregard.  The groom’s cake is a chance for you or your other half to have fun and be creative with the flavor and the design if you wish.  Keep it classy of course, but no matter what, remember it’s your day together, so make your own rules.  You may even start a new tradition. Check out our gallery of groom’s cakes here: http://www.haydelbakery.com/groom  – M.T.

Wedding Cake FAQ

We love these engraved forks found on The Faded Nest!

You’re getting married!  There can be a considerable amount of stress when it comes to tying the knot, but the cake is one accessory that you can definitely have some fun with and it doesn’t (or shouldn’t) require too much of your time or attention.  We sat down with one of our most seasoned wedding cake specialists here at Haydel’s, Tonya H.  She’s been working with NOLA brides at Haydel’s for nearly 10 years and is often requested for wedding cake consultations for her enthusiasm and vast wedding cake knowledge.  Although she now heads up our HR department, she still makes time for bridal consultations.  Herself a bride-to-be, we popped open the bubbly and asked Tonya to share answers to some of our brides most frequently asked questions when it comes to the sweetest of plans for the big day.

How far in advance should I reserve my date?

Here at Haydel’s we typically recommend reserving your wedding date at least a 3 to 4 months in advance.  However, some dates can book up quickly, depending on time of year and popularity, so it is always best to get your date secured as soon as possible.  Your best bet is to put a call into the bakeries you’re interested in to find out if your date is available.

Do I need to make an appointment for a wedding cake consultation/tasting?

We offer wedding cake consultations Tuesday through Friday from 7:30am until 4:00pm as walk-ins only, no appointment necessary.  We do take appointments on Saturdays however, so if a Saturday is most convenient for you, give us a call to set up a time.  Don’t delay though, our Saturdays book up fast.  Every bakery varies and most include this type of information on their websites.

Do I need to specifically request a tasting or is that automatically included in the consultation? 

We prepare wedding cake samples everyday and always have them on hand. Therefore brides are welcome to walk – in anytime before 4pm on weekdays (excluding Monday) and receive a sample tray.  Even though we only do consultations on Saturdays by appointment we still try to carry a few extra samples so that if a bride happens to be in town and would simply like to pick up samples, we can usually accommodate her.

Lovely lace.

What should I bring to the appointment?

If there are any images of cakes the bride may be interested in, it is always best to have them available so that our sales specialist can assist them more accurately with design, pricing, etc.  We have an entire wedding cake album for them to view when they come in, if they do not have a specific idea in mind just yet.  Be sure to check out our wedding cake gallery on our website for some ideas too.  Color swatches from bridesmaids dresses or other samples are helpful as well.

Texture is trendy!

What’s trendy in wedding cakes right now?

There are so many unique designs out there, it’s always hard to say exactly what the trend is.  Textured trims and lace patterns have been very popular, which is quite interesting considering one is very simple and the other is ornate.

Have you given any thought to your own wedding cake yet?

I have given plenty of thought to my own wedding cake.  Working with brides and wedding cakes all day, it is hard not to!  I have decided to go with a simple, textured design.  Perhaps I’m just going with the trend right now or maybe I have seen so much that I decided to keep it simple.  I have a few ideas to add my own touch, but I’m keeping those a secret!

No matter your wedding style, have fun when it comes to designing your cake.  Don’t be afraid to let your personality show!  Most importantly, enjoy the planning process and find vendors that make your life easier…(of course a glass of champagne can also make your life easier).  Happy planning y’all! – M.T.